Kanye West and Manners

 
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It has been a couple of days now and I was debating whether to write some of my thoughts on what happened at the MTV Video Music Awards (VMA). At first I wasn’t going to write anything, but then I decided for the sake of reinforcing the values of manners to my kids, I decided to write some brief thoughts.

For those of you who are not familiar with what happened, you can watch a video of it here.

When I first saw the news outlets’ video on what happened, I was at first shocked at Kanye’s actions and then it turned into disgust. In Taylor Swift’s moment to shine, Kanye decided to snuff it out by an obnoxious outburst. In fact, his action has turned out to be a public relations mess. In order to salvage some of his reputation, Kanye decided to appear on the Jay Leno show for an impromptu interview. In the interview, Leno asked a very poignant question. He asked Kanye what his mother would have thought about his actions.

Some people thought that question was out of line since Kanye’s mom recently passed away, while others thought it was an appropriate question.

For me the bigger issue deals with two things:

1) Manners are something that is taught and caught. Even in the word of Kanye, he admitted that his actions were rude. What causes a person to be rude? Society’s influence? Lack of good parenting? Whatever is the major cause, the bottom line is that in our generation we are seeing more people who do not have manners. Whether it comes in the form of eating manners, house manners, public conduct manners, and etc., we have to understand that a lot of these things are learned. Therefore it is an issue of parents not teaching their kids about it or people who are just rebellious to human decency. We need to bring back civility in our lifestyle. Showing respect, politeness, courtesy, and regard for others, are biblical principles that would be good for our generation good to follow.

2) Self-centeredness causes us to do inappropriate things. I had to watch the video several times in order to try to understand what would cause a person to do what Kanye did. He wanted to let the whole world know that Beyoncé Knowles had a better video. Now, my question is what was his motivation for stating his opinion when it was Taylor Swift who won? Did he think that his opinion was more important? Was there some hidden motive behind his outburst? Did he think at all about how Taylor Swift would feel by this outburst? If you watch this video outburst backstage, it will give you an insight to what is going on emotionally as well as mentally for Kanye.

When all was said and done, not only did Taylor Swift shine because when she had the opportunity to say something back, she withheld her tongue, but more importantly Beyoncé showed some class. When Beyoncé won an award, she invited Taylor to come up and finish off her acceptance speech that was cut short by Kanye.

Rolling Stone magazine wrote, “A source close to Swift tells [us] Beyoncé’s father/manager Matthew Knowles came backstage to see Taylor and helped arrange her belated acceptance speech.”

This reminded me that good parenting and people who keep their self-centeredness in check are the ones who are shining the most at the end of the day.

On another note, do you know what President Obama thought about Kanye and his actions? Hmm… if you are curious you can check it out here.
 
 
 
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Beyoncé gives a hug to Taylor after allowing her to finish her speech – A class act!